Life is all about making decisions. Sometimes we are stuck and we don’t know what is right for us and what is wrong. There are multiple options and we can get confused, but we can clear our confusion and we can make the right decisions. This article will help you make the right decision, or at least to clear your confusion. To do so, we have to see the reality.
Reality of Us
William Glasser explains that we are not born blank slates that are waiting for the outside world to motivate us. But we are born with five basic needs which drive our lives. Although all individuals have these needs, the strength of each of these needs depends on the individual.
Five basic needs
- Love and belongingness
- Power and self-esteem
Our brain always monitors our feelings and whenever we feel upset or sad, it means one of our needs is not satisfied. Sometimes people are not aware about their needs but they want to feel better. So how can we satisfy our needs? That is through our feelings, thoughts, physiology, and acting on them.
However, sometimes we don’t know which needs to satisfy first.
Is it fun, freedom, survival, or love? It is because we don’t know about our needs that we make the wrong choices. When one of our choices is not correct, then our whole life is disturbed and we get sad, feel disappointed, and our whole life goes sideways.
To understand this, take this car into consideration.
Useful question sequence
- What do you want?
- What are you doing to get what you want?
- What other things could you do to get what you want?
About Therapist Nimra Khattak
I am Nimra and I am a clinical psychologist or you can say therapist. As a therapist and as a clinical psychologist, I have come across a lot of people who suffered because of their wrong choices. We are so confused about our needs and desires that we have no idea what is a right choice for ourselves. I do believe that social pressure is one of the causes of wrong decisions too. When you are already confused and society pressurizes you more, one may make a wrong decision in such a situation. I wanted to write this article to make us realize we have the decision in our own hands. The consequences just follow it. We should be able to make the right decision once we know about our needs. This article will help you in understanding what you need and how you can make the right decisions to help you to live a happy life.